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Coming Out as Gay Later in Life

Posted by Gay Counselling on Monday, June 2, 2014, In : Coming Out

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Advice for an older man coming to terms with his sexuality isn't always so easy to find. But coming out later in life is not unusual. For example, many men who have been married and raised children make the decision to live life differently when their children are independent. If this is something you are considering, it can be helpful to know you are not alone.

Christopher Plummer (who was Captain Von Trapp in The Sound of Music won an Oscar for his portrayal of a gay widower and father in t...
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Uncertainty about Sexuality

Posted by Gay Counselling on Monday, January 27, 2014, In : mental health

Uncertainty about your sexuality can be quite difficult, particularly if you are already in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex. The good news is that it doesn't usually last and represents, for most people, a period of confusion through which they pass and end up feeling more comfortable.

Confusion about sexuality can certainly affect your mental health. This might be reflected in insomnia or problems sleeping, difficulties with concentration, being more forgetful or mood swings. ...
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Growing Up Gay

Posted by Gay Counselling on Monday, January 20, 2014, In : Growing Up Gay

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Some of us knew we were attracted to the same sex quite early in life. For others, we realized later. For example, it is not unusual for a man to discover attraction for men in his 30s or 40s. But for those who grew up gay often say they had many difficulties coming out as gay.

Children are often discouraged from talking about sexuality or same sex experiences. Parents often hope it was 'just a phase'. But evidence suggests that it is better to be supportive of young people who show an intere...
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Keeping Safe Using Gay Dating Sites

Posted by Gay Counselling on Sunday, January 23, 2011, In : relationships

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There are more sites than ever on the Internet for gay dating. But if you are new to internet dating, you might want to keep a few things in mind.

The Internet is a public space. That means pretty much whatever you put up there can be accessed by anyone, anywhere in the world. Sure some dating sites are 'closed' communities, but at the end of the day, you don't know who is joining and can see the information and pics you post.

Privacy is not something that concerns everyone but in any case, pe...
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Married and Gay... And In a Straight Relationship

Posted by gaycounselling on Saturday, October 23, 2010, In : Coming Out

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In the film Mulligans, Dan Payne plays Nathan, a father and husband who has been keeping a secret from his wife and children for 20 years. Nathan is gay. When Nathan's son invites a college buddy to stay for the summer, Nathan finds he can no longer suppress the feelings he has been hiding and the family must come to some new understandings.

Nathan married his girlfriend because she became pregnant with their son when they were both in college. In the film he says "it seemed the easiest thing...
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Reparative therapy? But what’s to be Repaired?

Posted by gaycounselling on Tuesday, October 12, 2010, In : mental health

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‘Reparative Therapy’, ‘Conversion Therapy’, ‘Ex-Gay Therapy’... Different names for what is essentially the same thing: treatment of a person that claims to be able to change sexual orientation.

There have been no studies of adequate scientific rigor to show that these approaches work or are in any way effective. In fact the most reputable American medical and scientific organizations have expressed concern over counseling and psychological practices like conversion therapy a...

Life as a Gay Person: It Gets Better.

Posted by gaycounselling on Thursday, September 23, 2010, In : mental health

Despite the improvements in some countries for gay people, teenagers and young people at school still experience anti-gay taunts and bullying. But those of us who are gay and made it through the homophobia of our school years know that it gets better.

Dan Savage is a gay US columnist and author who writes about homophobia, gay life and sexuality. Recently he started a the It Gets Better Project on Youtube aimed at providing information and positive role models to young gay people who are going...
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Feel Better About Sex

Posted by gaycounselling on Friday, May 14, 2010, In : Sex and sexual health

Sometimes we don’t feel good about having sex or bad after we have had sex. People can get the idea that because they enjoy sex and then feel bad later they have sex addiction. If our upbringing or family or the dominant ideas around us have not been supportive of our sexuality, we may find it is difficult to be who we are!

If you feel bad about having sex, there are some things you can do.

Get to know some other gay men or lesbians who feel good about their sexuality;
Say to yourself that jus...

Am I Gay?

Posted by gaycounselling on Monday, April 5, 2010, In : Knowing if you are Gay

If you are questioning whether you are gay you can find help from a number of sources. You can find support on a support forum like the ones at SameSame or OutEverywhere. Or you can speak with a counsellor. Before you talk with someone, it might be worth doing some of your own research. If this question is going through your mind and you want to know more, take a look at our Am I Gay? page.
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