Help and Information

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Some of us enjoy family gatherings and festive occasions. But the end of the calendar year is also a time when many gay people find themselves in uncomfortable situations with family or alone or isolated.

Not everyone has family who have come to reasonable terms with gay sexuality. In many families Christmas, for example, is geared towards children and gay adults whether partnered or not can feel left out of celebrations while their brothers and sisters take a lead role as parents and care p...
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Domestic Violence is not something that just affects straight relationships. Abuse and violence occurs in same sex relationships as well.

Domestic violence is more than just physical assualt. It includes threats, verbal intimidation, damage to your property and controlling behaviour. If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender and are subject to violence in your relationship or at home, help is available. There are gay friendly and gay and lesbian counsellors you can speak with and ...
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In the film Mulligans, Dan Payne plays Nathan, a father and husband who has been keeping a secret from his wife and children for 20 years. Nathan is gay. When Nathan's son invites a college buddy to stay for the summer, Nathan finds he can no longer suppress the feelings he has been hiding and the family must come to some new understandings.

Nathan married his girlfriend because she became pregnant with their son when they were both in college. In the film he says "it seemed the easiest thing...
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‘Reparative Therapy’, ‘Conversion Therapy’, ‘Ex-Gay Therapy’... Different names for what is essentially the same thing: treatment of a person that claims to be able to change sexual orientation.

There have been no studies of adequate scientific rigor to show that these approaches work or are in any way effective. In fact the most reputable American medical and scientific organizations have expressed concern over counseling and psychological practices like conversion therapy a...

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Despite the improvements in some countries for gay people, teenagers and young people at school still experience anti-gay taunts and bullying. But those of us who are gay and made it through the homophobia of our school years know that it gets better.

Dan Savage is a gay US columnist and author who writes about homophobia, gay life and sexuality. Recently he started a the It Gets Better Project on Youtube aimed at providing information and positive role models to young gay people who are going...
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Coming Out is a different experience for everyone. It can happen to us - we can be 'outed' - or we can do it ourselves. Some lesbians and gay men choose not to come out. Some people come out quite early, at 16 or 17 or even younger, others have more experience of life before they decide to come out.

There are lots of factors that can make coming out more difficult or seemingly too hard for many of us. Family expectations, religious perspectives and homophobia or hatred can stand in the way of ...
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Do you sometimes find yourself asking 'where are all the other gay people'?

For anyone living in a small town or somewhere where it is hard to be gay because of local attitudes or the threat of violence, it can sometimes seem like being 'the only gay in the village'. But gay people are everywhere, even if they are not as visible in some places as others. 

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Finding a counsellor if you are gay, even a counsellor who is also a gay person, is easy in the UK. If you are gay, homosexual, bisexual or you just want to discuss your sexuality, you can start with Gay Counselling in the UK here at gaycounselling.org.

Counsellors and psychotherapists who work with and support gay people can be found in private practice as well as in charitable organisations like the Terrance Higgins Trust. There are a directories where you can search for a counsellor who is ...
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Sometimes we don’t feel good about having sex or bad after we have had sex. People can get the idea that because they enjoy sex and then feel bad later they have sex addiction. If our upbringing or family or the dominant ideas around us have not been supportive of our sexuality, we may find it is difficult to be who we are!

If you feel bad about having sex, there are some things you can do.

1. Get to know some other gay men or lesbians who feel good about their sexuality;
2. Say to yourself that jus...

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If you are new to gay relationships, you may have a few pre-conceived ideas about what they are all about.

The important thing to remember is that gay people come in all shapes and sizes and have all kinds of interests, just like everybody else. Likewise, gay relationships are as diverse as those in them.

Do I have to choose between being a 'top' or a 'bottom'?
They don't last very long do they?
Gay guys and lesbians always sleep around don't they?
But I don't like bars... don't I have to go to on...
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